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Image 20 of The Advocate Messenger March 4, 2012

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C4 SUNDAY, MARCH 4, 2012 FAMILY THE ADVOCATE-MESSENGER WWW.AMNEWS.COM Do the French raise better-behaved kids? Un partie: Stop the presses! Two weeks ago, I reviewed and commented upon Pamela Druckerman’s book “Bringing Up Bebe,” in which she makes the claim that French parents, on the whole, raise children who are much more well-behaved, and at earlier ages, than their American counterparts. Now arises the question: Did Druckerman do what so many social “scientists” do these days? Did she begin with a premise and ignore evidence to the contrary so as to “prove” her point? A friend sent my column on Druckerman’s book to an acquaintance of hers who is French, lives in France, and is a John Rosemond Syndicated Columnist teacher in a French school, asking for comment. e madame wrote back: “I have read your friend's article and I can tell you the lady who wrote the book about French education (in this context, the French use “education” the same way Americans use the word “discipline”) can't have witnessed some of the scenes we see in supermarkets in this country, and I can assure you French children do have tantrums. “Every Sunday in church I suffer and am distracted, especially when I am the one who conducts the songs for the assembly, as some parents are totally unable to control their kids. Of course some young parents are very strict and control their children, but they are a minority, that's for sure!” She goes on to remark that child behavior in France has deteriorated markedly over the past 30 years, coincident with an equally marked rise in parent denial and enabling. In other words, French parents, especially in the middle and upper classes, no longer support their children’s teachers where discipline is con- cerned. at’s very interesting because it’s the same thing I hear from veteran teachers in the USA. In fact, there was no description or observation in this woman’s response to the column in question that is not also generally and most unfortunately true of American children and their parents. e bottom line: It is nothing more, nothing less than a symptom of ubiquitous parent confusion that Americans are now looking to Chinese Tiger Mothers and the French to tell us how to raise American children. All we need to do is look back in our own history to the 1950s and before. Be- sides, an American parent should be raising his or her kids with American values in mind, with the goal of raising a child who will strengthen America. e French cannot help us with that. Part Two: Over the past few weeks, since it first appeared on YouTube, many people have asked what I think about the video of the father who responded to his teenage daughter’s rebellious disrespect by taking her laptop into the yard and shooting it with a handgun. ere are actually two questions here: First, what do I think about the father destroying his daughter’s laptop? I approve. I don’t approve of his language, which was a tad too colorful for my tastes, but I thought his action was justified. It will certainly get his daughter’s attention and cause her to think twice. Second, what do I think about the father using a handgun to destroy his daughter’s laptop? Well, I think that was overkill, to employ a pun. It was stupid, in fact. He should have used something less provocative, less inflamatory — a sledgehammer, perhaps. Why? Because there is no anti-sledgehammer lobby. Family psychologist John Rosemond answers parents’ questions on his website at There are ways to save when traveling Tips for making If you love to travel or find yourself on the road more than you plan, you know you probably are going to be spending some unexpected money. Here are some tips for making travel more budget-friendly: Redbox: If you plan to take a trip and want to watch a new movie, there’s no need to go to a big box store and purchase a new DVD. Just stop by your local Redbox and check out a movie. Sign up for text alerts or reserve online and get free codes or discounts. You can watch it while you travel, then drop it off at another Redbox when you are done with it. witworks Gas Buddy Trip Calculator: When you plan a trip, you probably already calculate how much you will spend on lodging, food and attractions. But don’t forget to budget how much you will need to spend on gas. You can go here to enter your departure city and destination. You can enter the make and model of your vehicle. r.aspx Murph e-Offers: e Murph e-Offers keeps you Real Life Deals Sharon Williams Contributing Columnist up-to-date on the latest deals and discounts being offered at all of our Murphy USA and Murphy Express locations. Sign up to have Murph e-Offers store specials sent right to your inbox. Receive printable coupons for additional savings on the items you are looking for. Sign-up to receive notification when special deals become available! m/ Keep your Restaurant Coupons in the Car: I took a road trip recently and decided I would take time off from coupons. at was a great decision till we needed to grab a bite to eat at McDonalds. Guess where all my Mcd’s coupons were? At home! at meant that I paid twice the money I would have paid if I had taken my restaurants coupons with me. Lesson learned! Even if I decide to take the time off from regular coupons when I travel, from now on I will always have my restaurant coupons in the car. Rendeznew — the new way to meet in the middle!: If you need to find a meeting spot halfway between friends and family, try Rendeznew. You can enter up to 4 addresses and it will pinpoint the most central location where you can meet. It will also show you the available restaurants and attractions that are in that location. Hotel Coupons Online: If you walk in to any Interstate rest area, you have probably seen these coupon magazines sitting around for FREE. Usually the rate offered in these magazines is significantly less than the regular room rate. Make sure you read the coupon carefully, since there are often restrictions about days of the week and number of people. Now these coupons are available online as well: and Get More with Speedy Rewards: Every time you make a purchase, excluding restricted items, you will immediately start earning points towards gasoline discounts and/or free merchandise, as well as coupons for valuable savings just for using your Speedy Rewards membership card inside the store or at the pump! Choose from rewards like free food, free gas, free gift card, or even free dinner for two at Applebee’s or TGI Fridays! /SpeedyRewards/ Cracker Barrel Audiobook Rental Program: If you are on the road and need a new audiobook to help pass the miles, here’s an option: Cracker Barrel has an audiobook rental program. You purchase the audiobook in one Cracker Barrel location at full price (usual prices range from $10 up to $49 — rather steep initial out of pocket). But you can return the audiobook at another location and get a refund of your full purchase price minus $3.49. So basically, you rent the audiobook for $3.49 for up to one week. How do you save money when you are on the road? I’d love to hear! Sharon Williams blog about saving money at and ways to pursue your hobbies without breaking your budget at Why do people still bother to write books? Have you ever heard someone say, “I should write a book?” Perhaps you’ve said it yourself. I believe everyone has a book in them. As an author, people often approach me with the “everyone says I should write a book” line. ey then proceed to either tell me their idea, which I always like to hear, or ask me how the publishing process works, which I find far less exciting to describe. Writing a book is hard enough. Getting it published is even more challenging. You have to want it pretty badly. People want to write books for a lot of reasons. ey want to be famous. ey want to make a pile of money. ey want everybody from high school to see that they’re not a TRIANGLE OF TRUTH Lisa Earle McLeod Syndicated Columnist big fat loser after all. But there’s really only one good reason to write a book: because you can’t stand not to write it. You have a story or idea that you truly must share with the world, or you will just die. I know it was that way for me. You get to a certain point emotionally, where it’s easier to do the book than to not do the book. My latest book, “e Triangle of Truth,” was born when I saw the same problem cropping up in multiple places. I work as a sales leadership NYT CROSSWORD ANSWERS 1 2 3 4 5 6 20 7 12 36 37 31 38 28 32 39 52 57 40 53 80 107 108 70 71 76 87 98 88 119 83 84 89 95 112 113 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 114 115 116 It can be difficult to keep your child focused and willing to be productive during homework time. e more people in your household, the more distractions there can be when your child is supposed to be doing schoolwork. Establishing household rules the entire family abides by during study time can make doing homework as efficient and beneficial as possible. Designate specific areas for homework and studying, such as your child’s room or the dining room table. Be sure the space is functional as a work area — the desk or table should be large enough to spread out all materials, and you should keep a stock of pencils, pens, paper, books and all other essentials readily available. Encourage the use of a notepad or agenda so that your child can keep all assignments organized. Study time should come with limitations. e television should be turned off whenever it is homework time, as young children will be drawn to it if it is on. Some children are able to function well with their favorite radio station playing in the background, but you should judge radio use on a case-by-case basis. Regularity is very important to your child’s success. Try to serve dinner at the same time every night, and once family discussion is over, homework time should begin. If your child does not have after-school commitments, some work CHILDREN’S CHATTER Susan Matherly Contributing Columnist can be started before dinner. Consider your child’s developmental level when you set a required amount of time designated for homework. First-graders typically can’t last more than 15 minutes on a single task. Allow work breaks, and offer a reward for each finished section of homework (as long as the work has been done well). Make sure your child recognizes that studying is more than just completing homework assignments. Encourage your child to take notes as she reads a chapter, to study tables and charts, to summarize what she has read in her own words and to make flashcards for later studying purposes. It is acceptable for you to help your child with her homework if it is productive to do so. Checking a math problem or quizzing your child on spelling words can be very beneficial. However, if your child can obviously handle herself, then save your involvement for praise and support. Susan Matherly is director at A Children’s Place, a service of Ephraim McDowell Health. She has a bachelor’s degree in health and exercise science and a master’s degree in public health. She can be contacted at (859) 2367176. this week at A listing of selected events on the Centre College campus. Everyone is welcome, and events are free unless noted. Exciting new T ravel Journal from a student in Merida, Mexico go to Sunday, March 4 Women’s and men’s tennis vs. Indiana-Southeast, 1 p.m. Women’s lacrosse vs. Denison, 11 a.m. Baseball vs. Defiance, 1 p.m. “Fiddler on the Roof,” Tony Award-winning musical, 4 p.m., Norton Center for the Arts, call 236-4692 for ticket information and prices. Saturday March 17th Downtown “Pub Crawl,” 4:30 - late Monday, March 5 Community Arts Center 6:30 - 7:30 & 8:00 - 9:00 p.m. 105 111 The Irish are Coming! To Downtown Danville! Enjoy Irish music, dance and story-telling Sister Cities Irish Celebration 100 104 110 118 45 77 94 99 103 109 44 56 82 93 102 43 72 81 92 97 101 19 64 86 96 18 61 75 79 91 17 50 55 69 74 85 42 49 60 68 78 90 41 63 73 16 didn’t “get it.” ey want more conversation; their partner wants physical contact. ey want a tight budget; their partner wants the freedom to spend. ey become so attached to their own agenda that they’re blind to any perspective other than their own. e result is frustration, unhappiness and lack of success. Which leads me to politics, where for years I’ve watched both parties take a hard line either/or stance refusing to work together. Wait for it, there’s a pattern here, they become so attached to their own agenda that they’re blind to any perspective other than their own. e result is frustration, unhappiness and lack of success. Danville to Turn Green this St. Patrick’s Day 54 59 62 67 15 34 48 58 66 14 29 33 47 51 13 22 27 46 117 11 25 30 106 10 24 26 65 9 21 23 35 8 consultant. I also write a personal development column and I’m a keen observer of politics. Here’s what I observed in each area. Salespeople who can’t put themselves in the customer’s shoes miss opportunities. When they’re only focused on their own products and services, they miss what’s going on with their customer. ey become so attached to their own agenda that they’re blind to any perspective other than their own. e result is frustration, unhappiness and lack of success. Every time I write about personal relationships in my newspaper column I get loads of letters from hurt, angry, jaded people describing the many ways their partner homework time productive Gold and White Club lunch, Cowan, noon, $7.48 per person. Tuesday, March 6 “The Muslim Jesus and a Table in Heaven,” 7 p.m., Weisiger Cost for the Irish Celebration: $10 in advance, $15 at the door. For a tax-deductible $50, become a Sponsor (and bring a guest or your family free). Help the Danville Sister Cities Commission raise funds to sponsor exchanges. Reinvigorate your Irish roots – even if you don’t have any. Send your “Sister Cities” check to 304 South 4th Street, Room 201, Danville KY 40422. Or give it to a Danville SC Commissioner: Jane Boyd, Hugh Coomer, Jane Dewey, Ray Hammond, Jody Lassiter, Gail Louis, Shawn Lyons, Milton Reigelman, Bill Simpson, Mary Beth Touchstone, or Rachel White. Don’t miss out on Danville’s Own Irish Craic! Co-sponsored by The Advocate-Messenger 140346 Wednesday, March 7 Men’s lacrosse vs. Mt. St. Joseph, 4 p.m. Thursday, March 8 “Life Stories,” the ever popular annual convo featuring Centre professors sharing their stories, 7 p.m., Weisiger Theatre. Friday, March 9 Softball vs. Defiance, double-header, 5 p.m. For the latest Centre news visit the College’s website (new stories every Thursday) Centre President John A. Roush Admission Information 859-238-5350 Communications Office 859-238-5714

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