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A8 THE NEWS-ENTERPRISE DEAR ABBY MCKAIN AWARDED SECOND ACHIEVEMENT MEDAL JEANNIE PHILLIPS ever, since then my marriage has broken down. Conventional wisdom — expressed by friends, family and your column repeatedly — has it I should end this hopeless affair, get out and meet other men. I have made numerous attempts, but have accepted he’s the only man I feel comfortable being intimate with. I don’t want him to leave his marriage, from which he draws much respectability and desperately needed security. However, his obvious delight in our afternoon trysts does suggest his so-called picture-perfect marriage doesn’t meet his emotional and sexual needs. And that’s what irks me. Would it be morally reprehensible for me to let his wife know she has been made a fool of for the last 20 years? — Seething in Canada ■ Dear Seething: Yes. Resist the urge. What makes you think his wife doesn’t know? Once more than two people know this kind of “secret,” word has a way of circulating. I see nothing positive to be gained by trying to hurt the wife. If your lover has to make a choice between the two of you, the person who will get the boot will be you. You knew this from the beginning. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Universal Press Syndicate. ‘TWEEN 12 & 20 Your boyfriend is a winner Dr. Wallace: My boyfriend is the type of guy every girl would love. He is handsome, intelligent, sensitive, kind and honest. He also has a great sense of humor. Chuck and I have been going together for more than two months. I am the happiest girl in Florida when I’m with Chuck, and I love him very much. He comes from a troubled home. His parents are divorced, and he lives with an older sister and his mother. His father is an alcoholic. His older sister is not married and never has been, but she has a child. We have discussed his home life. He loves his family, but he knows he is not responsible for their lifestyles. He says he has learned a lot from his family’s mistakes. My mother is upset I’m dating Chuck because “he is a part of a very unstable home.” Mom is status-minded and always is worrying about what her friends will say. I don’t plan to lose Chuck for any reason. But things would be a lot easier if my mom would treat him for himself and not his family problems. Do you have any tips to help change Mom’s mind about my boyfriend? — Nameless, Ft. Walton, Beach, Fla. ■ Nameless: Prejudging is a very common human flaw and at times, we all are guilty of prejudging. The better your mother gets to know Chuck, the better she will be able to judge him for his character. Invite Chuck to spend time in your home, and invite Mom to go out with Chuck and you for a snack. It won’t take long before Mom realizes he is a winner, and you are, indeed, fortunate to have a TUESDAY, MARCH 20, 2012 Neighbors Four years of college is not the only road to success Dear Abby: Do you think every American child should get a four-year college degree? I keep meeting students who have a real talent and passion for other jobs — military, cosmetology or skilled trades, such as Internet technology and carpentry — but whose parents are furious at the suggestion they might not graduate from a four-year college. Graduating from college has been part of what we envision as the “American dream,” but not every kid is going to be fulfilled after getting one of those degrees when the jobs that go with it don’t materialize. Because someone chooses a career path that isn’t what a parent hoped for doesn’t mean he or she can’t be successful. — Ann Arbor Reader ■ Dear Reader: I have had this discussion with many people over the years and I agree. While it is crucial young people finish high school, not every child is intellectually inclined. Many have talents better-suited to the trades. A person with skill and drive can earn a good living as a plumber, electrician, tailor or in the food industry. Some brilliant and successful people started but didn’t finish college. Economic realities being what they are today, parents should be flexible and sensitive to their children’s aspirations on this subject. SECRET LOVER. Dear Abby: For 20 years, my secret (to some, but not to others) involvement with a married man has kept me on an emotional roller coaster. We were both married at the time it began, and it always was understood we would not leave our partners. How- NEWS ROBERT WALLACE relationship with a wonderful guy. DRUG USERS ENJOY COMPANY. Dr. Wallace: Why do you think kids take drugs? I know there are many reasons, but I’d like to hear what you think about this. The reason I’m asking is I hate to take pills and legal drugs when I’m sick, and the thought of putting a needle in my arm turns my stomach. — Lilly, Marinette, Wis. ■ Lilly: There are indeed many reasons why teens take drugs. After giving your question a great deal of thought, I feel the two prime reasons are peer pressure and depression. The old saying, “Misery enjoys company,” is so true when it pertains to teens and drugs. Most drug users never seem satisfied getting high by themselves. They always seem to enjoy inviting others to partake. That’s one reason drug use (including alcohol) is very common at certain parties. Nonusers are told how wonderful drugs are and then are invited (pressured) to join in the fun. Only the strong-willed have the courage to say no. Drugs alter behavior. Some teens, who are depressed because of family problems, school failure, or a breakup with a steady boyfriend or girlfriend, turn to drugs as an escape from the pressures of reality. Unfortunately, taking drugs only compounds the situation. Email Dr. Robert Wallace at Distributed by Creators Syndicate Inc. Air Force Staff Sgt. Kenneth McKain was recently awarded his second Air Force Achievement Medal for providing lifesaving treatment after arriving at the scene of a near fatal motorcycle accident in Germany. In part the citation reads “Sergeant McKain arrived on the scene of a motorcycle accident which had resulted in serious injuries to the rider. Without hesitation he initiated lifesaving actions to the critically injured motorcyclist whose major injuries included severe head trauma, a broken back and a collapsed lung. After immobilizing the victim Sergeant McKain administered intravenous fluids and oxygen ... stabilized the victim until paramedics arrived, assisting them in providing the medical attention that ultimately saved the victim’s life.” This was the second incident in which McKain, a 12-year Air Force veteran, was first on the scene of a severe motorcycle accident, providing aid to the injured riders until medical help arrived. He was cited for his humanitarian efforts to prevent loss of life and limb in both instances. McKain is a 1997 graduate of Central Hardin High School and is the son of Bruce and Karola McKain of Elizabethtown. He lives with his daughter, Faith Maria McKain, in Adana, Turkey, where he is stationed with the Air Force. Air Force Major Graves, of the 702nd Munitions Support Squadron, 52nd Munitions Maintenance Group, 52nd Fighter wing, Buechel Airbase, Germany, presents Staff Sgt. Kenneth McKain with his award. MILITARY CALENDAR HOW TO USE THIS COLUMN. Military and military organization announcements are published at no charge in this calendar on Tuesdays. Items for the calendar must be turned in by noon Monday. POC refers to “point of contact.” Area codes are listed only for phone numbers outside the 270 area code. Listings not updated within a year are removed. To update or submit a calendar entry, email calendars, call 505-1751 or fax to 7696965. Tuesday DAV van service, going from Grayson County to the Louisville VA Hospital on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Veterans from Elizabethtown and Radcliff needing a ride on these days may be picked up at set pick-up points. Five days notice needed. POC: Tommy Vaughn, 854-5630. English as a second language class, 12:30-2:30 p.m. Tuesdays and Thursdays, sponsored by Army Community Service. POC: (502) 624-6291 or 624-8391. Fort Knox Red Cross volunteer orientations, 10 a.m., American Red Cross, 1131 Fifth Ave., Fort Knox. Volunteers needed as course instructors, case workers, disaster team members, hospital and clerical workers. POC: (502) 624-2163. Wednesday DAV Chapter 003 provides Hardin and Meade County veterans transportation to VA clinic appointments in Louisville on Monday, Wednesday and Friday. For information or to make a reservation, call 877-2229. 11th Armored Cavalry’s Blackhorse Association’s Gold Vault Chapter (BHA), 6:30 p.m. March 21, American Legion Post 113, E’town. Veterans, active duty, members of the 11th ACVVC, LRRPS, and AIR CAV Chapters, and family members of all eras, who served with or attached to the 11th Cavalry Regiment, are encouraged to attend. POC: Rondo Jackson, rondo@windstream .net, 242-2833. VETERANS SERVICE OFFICERS Several local organizations provide service officers to assist veterans and their families file claims and appeals for Veterans Affairs benefits. ORGANIZATION/SITE DAYS TIMES CONTACT American Legion Post 113 of Elizabethtown 1251 Ring Road Tuesday and first Thursday 9 a.m.-1 p.m. 737-9949 DAV Chapter 003, Elizabethtown Ireland Army Hospital, Fort Knox. Enter through the Patient Services Center next to the pharmacy waiting area. 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Monday, Tuesday Wednesday DAV Chapter 003 State service officer Lincoln Trail Career Center, 916 N. Mulberry St., E’town First three Thursdays of the month 9 a.m.-noon Dave Jarrett, 765-6340; or Ron Chasten, 769-9787 DAV Radcliff Chapter 156 Basement, Radcliff City Hall MondayThursdays 10 a.m.-3 p.m. 351-3666 Fort Knox Veterans Service Office, One-stop building 1384, Fort Knox MondayThursday 9 a.m.-noon Clint and Mildred Meshew, (502) 6244103 Pritchard Community Center 404 W. Mulberry St., E’town Fourth Tuesday 1:30-4 p.m. Frank Niederriter, (502) 799-0418 or (866) 8171360. Vine Grove Veterans’ Assistance and Information Center Vine Grove City Hall Thursday 10 a.m.-3 p.m. Ret. Sgt. Maj. Ralph Martinez (270) 8770675 Potluck at 6:30. POC: Arveeda Gordon, 351-3611. Fort Knox Chapter of the National Infantry Assoc., 11 a.m.-1 p.m. March 22, The Landing Zone, 2723 Spearhead Loop, Fort Knox, in the Sports Room; anyone interested in maintaining or supporting the Infantr y ethos is welcome. POC: Michael Pesko, 602-7019; County VA Clinic, Mondays Only. POC: Tom Vaughn, 854-5630. Free transportation to Ireland Army Community Hospital (veterans’ clinic) provided by Radcliff DAV Chapter 156; must have valid appointment, a letter from the doctor and someone to accompany you. POC: 3513666. Call by Thursday for Monday appointments. Saturday Upcoming Ducks Unlimited’s ‘Sportman’s Night Out,’ 6 p.m. March 24, VFW Post 10281, 299 Briggs Lane, Vine Grove, sponsored by the Ducks Unlimited Fort Knox Committee. 2012 marks the 75th anniversary for DU’s habitat conservation mission which benefits wildlife and people. POC: Robert Gilpin, 900-1254. Rolling Thunder Inc., Kentucky Chapter Four monthly membership and business meeting, 2 p.m. April 1 in the Community Center, 135 N. Poplar St., Lebanon Junction. Dues are $30 per year. Anyone can join, even though many members are veterans and ride motorcycles. Major functions of Rolling Thunder are to publicize the POW/MIA issue, help homeless and disabled veterans of all wars, and other veterans’ issues. POC: Sally Johns, 352-2754. Thursday DAV and Ladies Auxiliary No. 156, 7:30 p.m., Colvin Community Center, Radcliff. Monday DAV van service, from Hardin County to Grayson Rick Seekman, 351-2917 MEDDAC Retirees, Dutch treat lunch, 11:30 a.m. April 4, Golden Corral, 1835 N. Dixie, E’town. Military and spouses welcome. POC: Kay Hensley, 351-6440. Main Post Chapel, 1173 Spearhead Division Ave, Fort Knox, will host a reenactment through music and drama of the night Jesus was betrayed, “The Living Last Supper,” with living characters from DaVinci’s famous painting; 7:30 p.m. April 5. As Jesus’ disciples pose in DaVinci’s tableau, each questions his own relationship with Jesus, asking, “Is it I, Lord?” They share the Passover meal while the choir sings special selections. The congregation may also share in the bread and cup. POC: the Rev. Ronald Masoni, 351-7483. DAV Disabled Veterans briefing, 11 a.m. April 14, Morning Star Missionar y Baptist Church, 1106 South Wilson Road, Radcliff. Lunch follows. POC: the Rev. Michael Gamble, 304-5892. Neighbors content also can be seen at NEIGHBORS GUIDELINES GETTING IT TO US ■ Neighbors submissions should be typed or legible. The information should be clear and concise. Include a name and daytime phone number in case of questions. 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